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Thursday, January 13, 2011

Hubbies, Men of God, Can we talk?

Men of God can we get real for a few, I mean really kick back and be honest. Just take off the “front, the cover” for a few and kick it like it’s supposed to be?
We’re bustin our humps trying to make a living and worrying about everything under the sun, tired, worn out, and still thinking we need to work harder. But the crazy thing is, what we’re working hardest for is passing us by. Our wives and children are the focus of our lives, or at least that’s what we’d like to believe.
The first thought that comes to mind is “I want the best for them!” But how can they have the best without you? How can she have the best without you? Do you really think she married you for your money? Think about it, when you were dating and sending your representative out to meet her, (You know the real you was still in hiding!) He was listening to her conversation, laughing at her humor, finding similar things to be interested in, sharing his wisdom and encouraging her endeavors.
Now you barley get time to cuddle and giggle together. Even our ministries get in the way, we’re so gung ho for God that everybody else’s crisis comes before our own family. We've even convinced ourselves that it’s an act of selflessness to sacrifice for others, yeah I know what you’re thinking, but that does not apply to our families.
“Here is a trustworthy saying: Whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task. Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)” I Tim. 3:1-5
God meant leadership for those who are married to begin in the home. Your first ministry is to God, your second is to your wife, third to your children and then you can go into the outer most. The mina (Talent or Gift) the master gave you is you wife. There are things in her past that only you can speak to, things that no one else can reach. You can provide healing to places that others will never see because your marriage is your primary ministry.
“Then another servant came and said, ‘Sir, here is your mina; I have kept it laid away in a piece of cloth. I was afraid of you, because you are a hard man. You take out what you did not put in and reap what you did not sow. His master replied, ‘I will judge you by your own words, you wicked servant!” Lk. 19:20-23

The Christian Husbands basic litmus test, have I laid her up in cloth trying to fulfill her with worldly things and providing no spiritual increase or elevation as a result of this union, or have I showered her with the love of God the patience, spiritual understanding, kindness of statement and shared the understanding of God's Word while seeking our growth together?
Come men let’s kick it, share a word on this, and maybe even help a brother who may be having a difficult time in his marriage, or help someone avoid one.
Tomorrow’s topic; “How to turn you wife into a vision of loveless!”
“Go out and feed some sheep today!”


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