About Me

My photo
Writer, Facilitator, Teacher, Author, Minister of the Gospel, Soft-skills Consultant

Friday, January 14, 2011

“How to turn your wife into a vision of loveliness!”

Welcome, as we continue with what I believe to be our “Hubbies, Men of God, Can we talk?” series. Today let’s chat about the beauty of a woman.
Kingdoms have been won and lost over a beautiful woman, David became a murderer for the love of Bathsheba, Samson lost both his blessing and his life for a woman named Delilah, and even Abraham lied to two different kings claiming Sarah to be his sister so that they wouldn’t kill him to take her. Men have been captivated by the beauty of women since the beginning of time, scripture points out how the Sons of God (Nephilim) saw the beauty in the daughters of man, married them and had children by them.
If the angels had difficulty staying away from the daughters of man, what hope have we married men? It becomes even more challenging for us because we have a habit of professing marital death out of our mouths. We say things like “I’m just window shopping, but I’m not buying nothing!” But we’re playing with temptation. A wise man once said “If you hang around the barber shop long enough, you’ll eventually get a haircut!”
What can we do to help us through this?
“In that day you will no longer ask me anything. I tell you the truth, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.”  Jn 16;23
Yes prayer is the answer; however I’ve found that the key to that answer is the “Whatever you ask” portion. Asking for the right thing for your spirit, you see I use to ask that I remain strong which meant the answer laid on me. Not good since it was one of my weakest points and the enemy knew how to send just what I liked, the way I liked it and at my weakest point.
Petitioning for the right thing allowed me to learn a great lesson, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder!” Yes it’s true, take a moment and give it some thought, how many times have you looked at couples and wondered how they ended up together? Take my wife for example, when we first met I never gave her much thought, as a matter of fact she was not what I felt to be my type. But then one night at a friend’s church during Worshiping, while crying and worshiping I open my eyes and felt the Holy Spirit say “Meet your wife!” She was the most amazing thing I’d ever seen, beautiful brown eyes wrapped in a spirit loveliness that had me wondering why God picked me to bless.
So what do I pray for to help me stay focused? Something I read in Proverbs 5:18-19
May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
I pray that I remain intoxicated with her love, and for all other woman to pale by comparison in my eyes to her beauty, to let the richness of her spirit wash over me as it did that day when the Holy Spirit introduced us, and the sweetness of her touch provide me comfort. These are the things I needed God to bless me with so I wouldn’t have to think about it when the enemy tries to tempt me, God has placed my spirit on autopilot!
The real joy is when I look across the room and say to myself “My, my, my she is so fine!” Thank you Lord. Her smile still makes me blush and I lose my train of thought, bless you Lord. Her touch across my brow takes away my breath and all my tension, Hallelujah!
So my brothers if you want a Holy Ghost make over for your wives that will turn them into visions of loveliness, ask God to change how you receive them because beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.
Don't forget to join us Monday for the next part of this series, "Being the Head"
“Go out and feed some sheep today!”

Thursday, January 13, 2011

Hubbies, Men of God, Can we talk?

Men of God can we get real for a few, I mean really kick back and be honest. Just take off the “front, the cover” for a few and kick it like it’s supposed to be?
We’re bustin our humps trying to make a living and worrying about everything under the sun, tired, worn out, and still thinking we need to work harder. But the crazy thing is, what we’re working hardest for is passing us by. Our wives and children are the focus of our lives, or at least that’s what we’d like to believe.
The first thought that comes to mind is “I want the best for them!” But how can they have the best without you? How can she have the best without you? Do you really think she married you for your money? Think about it, when you were dating and sending your representative out to meet her, (You know the real you was still in hiding!) He was listening to her conversation, laughing at her humor, finding similar things to be interested in, sharing his wisdom and encouraging her endeavors.
Now you barley get time to cuddle and giggle together. Even our ministries get in the way, we’re so gung ho for God that everybody else’s crisis comes before our own family. We've even convinced ourselves that it’s an act of selflessness to sacrifice for others, yeah I know what you’re thinking, but that does not apply to our families.
“Here is a trustworthy saying: Whoever aspires to be an overseer desires a noble task. Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him, and he must do so in a manner worthy of full respect. (If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?)” I Tim. 3:1-5
God meant leadership for those who are married to begin in the home. Your first ministry is to God, your second is to your wife, third to your children and then you can go into the outer most. The mina (Talent or Gift) the master gave you is you wife. There are things in her past that only you can speak to, things that no one else can reach. You can provide healing to places that others will never see because your marriage is your primary ministry.
“Then another servant came and said, ‘Sir, here is your mina; I have kept it laid away in a piece of cloth. I was afraid of you, because you are a hard man. You take out what you did not put in and reap what you did not sow. His master replied, ‘I will judge you by your own words, you wicked servant!” Lk. 19:20-23

The Christian Husbands basic litmus test, have I laid her up in cloth trying to fulfill her with worldly things and providing no spiritual increase or elevation as a result of this union, or have I showered her with the love of God the patience, spiritual understanding, kindness of statement and shared the understanding of God's Word while seeking our growth together?
Come men let’s kick it, share a word on this, and maybe even help a brother who may be having a difficult time in his marriage, or help someone avoid one.
Tomorrow’s topic; “How to turn you wife into a vision of loveless!”
“Go out and feed some sheep today!”